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Day 147-150 How to Lead by THE BOOK: How to Handle False Accusers!

Monday, December 6th, 2010

Just nine days until the deadline for How to Lead by THE BOOK! I’ve decided to stop at fourteen chapters–I’ve run out of word allotment! I’m at the publisher-prescribed 50,000 words! The others strategies I wanted to include will have to wait for the next book.

Any leader who takes a stand for something is going to encounter false accusations. False accusations normally come as the result of an attacker not having anything legitimate to accuse you of, so they resort to lies. As an author, I endure my fair share of disgruntled comments. Normally for every fifty positive emails, I’ll receive one on the irrational side. It normally has no factual basis and makes false claims. Here’s how I’ve successfully handled these occasions in the past. Perhaps these thoughts can help you remain productive when you endure similar attacks:

1. Stay calm and stick to the facts. Don’t get personal and don’t exaggerate, insult or try to beat down your assailant. Let your mature manner, and the facts you present, do that for you.

2. Your reply should address the concerns they throw at you, but don’t say any more than is necessary. Get to the point and move on.

3. Acknowledge their right to disagree, but not their right to be wrong or to lie. In other words, if they’re expressing a different opinion, fine. However, if they’re accusing you of something false, set the record straight.

4. Stay on a high road. Conclude your response cordially and again–resist the temptation to get personal and put the nuisance in his place! You may have the intellect and ability to chew him up and spit him out. Don’t. Use only what is necessary to disarm their attack and make your defense. The last thing you want is a prolonged dialogue with someone who has nothing better to do.

The lesson: if someone offers you legitimate criticism, listen to it and see what you can learn from it. But when they falsely accuse you, take the more proactive steps listed above.