Archive for February, 2011

A Secret to Greater Success at Work is…

Sunday, February 27th, 2011

A successful marriage. That’s a secret to greater success at work. I’ve found that everyone from front line employees to business owners who are happier and more fulfilled at home, are more focused and productive at work. The joy, love, and respect they enjoy with their families strengthens their resolve to do well at work.  A happy marriage reduces their stress levels and anxiety while on the job. Today’s Wisdom Hunter’s Daily Devotional, which I’ve included below, speaks to the what is involved in building a successful marriage:

Successful Marriages 

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”   Ephesians 5:31

Even successful marriages are fraught with mistakes. Marriage lessons are learned by trial and error or trial and terror, as some husbands and wives have experienced. Indeed, successful marriages don’t just happen by chance. They are not created like a clock, to be wound up and never given attention.

You become one flesh in marriage, but in reality it takes a lifetime of hard work, forgiveness, love, and respect to enjoy oneness. One flesh implies unity of purpose. It is an alignment around beliefs and behavior, and if this is void in marriage, you become vulnerable to misplaced expectations and perpetual misery. Marriage requires at least as much work as work.

Hard work is a necessity for successful marriages. This seems obvious, but we tend to drift toward being spousal sluggards when we become intoxicated by apathy. However, hard work is the fuel that keeps a marriage moving forward. We see the fruit of hard work in our career and raising children, as it produces satisfaction and significance. But these results come from many hours of planning, communicating, training, and teaching. Indeed, your marriage is a direct result of the amount of effort you have expended.

Don’t expect a harvest of marriage success if the seeds of forgiveness, love, and respect have not been planted in the soil of humility and trust. Furthermore, the weeds of busyness have to be intentionally pulled out, before they choke out your love and friendship with your spouse. Busyness is the enemy of the best marriages, so labor toward a marriage with much margin. Robust marriages take time and trust.

Forgiveness in marriage means you take the time to say, “I was wrong” and “I am sorry,” and it means you take responsibility to confess your anger and selfishness. Moreover, it is the ability to not hold a grudge. God-like forgiveness forgives even before the offense has been committed (Colossians 3:13). It accepts apologies and does not bring up past hurts as a club of resentment. Forgiveness is the cornerstone in the foundation of a successful marriage.

Above all else, successful marriages are made up of unconditional love and radical respect. No wife has ever complained of too much love, or a husband of an over-abundance of respect. Love is emotional, physical, and volitional. Husbands, you are to love sensitively, intimately, and willfully (Ephesians 5:25). Wives, respect your husband out of love and loyalty.

Make sure he knows you are with him and for him, no matter what. Respect is devoid of fear, so you trust your husband because he is accountable to God. Furthermore, marriage is your laboratory for Christianity because you learn to live for the Lord by learning to live for each other. You die to yourselves and come alive to each other. Marriage is your mirror of obedience to Jesus. Successful marriages reflect your oneness with your Savior. Be a marriage success as God defines success.

Taken from the February 26th reading in Seeking Daily the Heart of God.

Seven Quotes: How to Lead by THE BOOK

Thursday, February 10th, 2011

The seven quotes for the back cover of, How to Lead by THE BOOK: Proverbs, Parables & Principles to Tackle Your Toughest Business Challenges are in! Take a look below and see if you know any of these special friends who agreed to read and review my book for me. I appreciate their time and generosity. Their input will add great value to the book!

If you’re looking for no nonsense answers to help you fix, build, or stretch your organization, How to Lead by THE BOOK hits the bullseye! This book is a home run!

John C. Maxwell, Leadership Expert and Best-selling Author. 

How to Lead by THE BOOK is filled with refreshing, uncommon candor. Each chapter provides pragmatic applications to help Christian leaders tackle today’s most common leadership challenges. I found as many applications for how we manage our home and family as I do in managing our company. Reading this book humbly reminds me of my servant leadership responsibilities to my colleagues.

Ed Bastian, President of Delta Airlines 

 Our nation is at a crossroads.  We are experiencing a call to leadership in our country today in business, in politics and in our families.  Many have offered different visions to follow but there can be only one.  How to Lead by THE BOOK lays out the true path to authentic leadership that has been tested and found to be true for eons.  I highly recommend this book.

Chad Hennings, Super Bowl Champion, author, Rules of Engagement

How to Lead by THE BOOK offers a refreshing return to highly effective, eternal success principles. The biblically-based strategies Dave provides to your fourteen toughest challenges have never been more necessary or relevant.

Jon Gordon, Best-selling author of The Energy Bus and Soup

In a world of constant change, stability comes from living the values that don’t change.  This is as true for companies as it is for the individuals who work in them.  In How to Lead by THE BOOK Dave Anderson reminds us that some values are timeless, regardless of the times we live in.

Joe Calloway, author, Becoming A Category of One

Renowned leadership authority Dave Anderson has made an extraordinary contribution with How to Lead by THE BOOK. This remarkable work can be of immediate-and enduring–value to anyone called upon to lead within a company, a not-for-profit, the military, a community or a family.

James Strock, author of Serve to Lead, and Reagan on Leadership

How to Lead by the Book is a no-nonsense approach to leadership for today’s leader. With insight from God’s Word, Dave addresses the issues that every leader faces on a daily basis and provides practical steps to bring health to any team. A must-read!

Todd Mullins, Lead Pastor Christ Fellowship Church, West Palm Gardens, Florida