Day 57 How to Lead by THE BOOK: The Real Problem Behind Relationship Failures!

Here are five symptoms that you have relational problems with people:

1. You spend more time with “stuff” than you do with people.

2. You look at people as an expense rather than an asset.

3. You don’t easily trust others, and they in turn are skeptical of your own actions and motives.

4. You don’t feel a love for the people you work with or serve as customers.

5. You routinely judge, keep score, and condemn others rather than look for the good and build them up.

If you don’t consider yourself as a “people person”, and use that as an excuse to justify any of these five attitudes towards people, you’re hiding from the truth. The fact is that you’ll never become a people person until you value people! And you cannot truly value and love people until you fully love God. Thus, if you have relationship problems, they are symptomatic of a bigger issue: your relationship with God isn’t what it should be!

Watch carefully the sequence of Jesus’ words as found in Matthew 22:37-39 as He replied to the question, “What is the greatest commandment?”: Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second commandment is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'”

Jesus knew that the second commandment wasn’t going to happen until his hearers embraced the first one!

In, How to Run Your Business by THE BOOK I included an entire chapter on developing people skills. But the first step to developing people skills is to love and care for people! In, How to Lead by THE BOOK I’ll include strategies for developing a greater love for God, and for people. Here’s a hint: While you won’t have to think less of yourself to pull this off, you will need to think of yourself less.

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